Now that I have beheaded it what do I do with it

Tak said:
We didn't get many toys. I'm not complaining. I got a live pregnant pony for my 9th birthday. I got to see and help her foal. Plus ballet is expensive, I'm so accident prone that i was a big medical expense, home school, raising lambs, and so many camping trips. Less toys, but we had a life full of experiences.
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Without a very generous Aunt, we would have been playing with sticks and stones most days. But most of my best memories involve no toys, but rather amazing adventures with my friends or brothers. We were dirt poor at one time, but I was happy anyway. We had a great life, we were loved. It was enough.

I need to remember that now, I've gotten far too materialistic.
 
evilbunnyfoofoo said:
Without a very generous Aunt, we would have been playing with sticks and stones most days. But most of my best memories involve no toys, but rather amazing adventures with my friends or brothers. We were dirt poor at one time, but I was happy anyway. We had a great life, we were loved. It was enough.

I need to remember that now, I've gotten far too materialistic.
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I go through what i get carefully. If we ever end up with more it's usually a manic incident. They're under control now. I just need to keep it that way. ;)
 
I still had plenty of experiences. I was in the girl scouts for awhile, I did tap,acting and singing lessons. I used to go to the ballet and theater. There were trips I went on with my folks we went to Catalina island a couple of times. Sadly im broke and cant afford half of that stuff for my own kid. :( On top of we got to worry about house shopping.
 
Skycakes said:
I still had plenty of experiences. I was in the girl scouts for awhile, I did tap,acting and singing lessons. I used to go to the ballet and theater. There were trips I went on with my folks we went to Catalina island a couple of times. Sadly im broke and cant afford half of that stuff for my own kid. :( On top of we got to worry about house shopping.
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Yeah, I can't give my girl the same experiences either. Between cost and disability, I can't seem to make it happen.
 
I am not sure how my mother did it. She raised me alone for several years before getting remarried. I always had what I thought was a lot. I never felt poor, but mother says to this day she wasn't sure where the money for groceries was going to come from some months. She kept the financial burdens of life away from me. I had a lot on my plate to deal with. It was hard enough without her putting those responsibilities on me at such a young age. So, if she had problems I only remember one incident and for the most part she worked three jobs and somehow managed. My grandmother must have helped with the toys, dolls and stuff. My favorite thing to do was play outside and make forts with plain wood pieces my dad cut up for me before the divorce. If I had a pile of wood, some sheets and a blanket I was super happy in that yard for hours on end. I kept myself busy on the farm by just fishing all day. There were a lot of good things and I am glad I have those to hang on to now that things are getting harder and harder with everyone getting cancer and dementia.
 
This make me sound old but when I see my niece glued to there tablets or something with video on it or they want to dress up and need store bought dress and shoes etc.
I think to myself granted we were not poor but we treaded the line some weeks with food and all. I am sure my grandparents helped. Buy it amaze me my dress up clothes were night gown my mom/nanny let me use. And on gods the big chest of fabrics and ribbion in her bedroom and my favorite thing the big floppy hat don't ask me but I adored this thing. I used to dress up climb a apple tree at my nannies and eat till I was sick. Then get told not to climb in night gown with a knife.

My niece need store bought stuff to play make believe I think the generations of us who did not need these things not that store bought toys or dress up stuff is not ok its wonderful but its just sad that it used to just add to the play. Now its like I cant play unless I have the elsa dress or something.
 
Ology said:
This make me sound old but when I see my niece glued to there tablets or something with video on it or they want to dress up and need store bought dress and shoes etc.
I think to myself granted we were not poor but we treaded the line some weeks with food and all. I am sure my grandparents helped. Buy it amaze me my dress up clothes were night gown my mom/nanny let me use. And on gods the big chest of fabrics and ribbion in her bedroom and my favorite thing the big floppy hat don't ask me but I adored this thing. I used to dress up climb a apple tree at my nannies and eat till I was sick. Then get told not to climb in night gown with a knife.

My niece need store bought stuff to play make believe I think the generations of us who did not need these things not that store bought toys or dress up stuff is not ok its wonderful but its just sad that it used to just add to the play. Now its like I cant play unless I have the elsa dress or something.
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My grandmother gave me a big box of old silky lacy nightgowns, high heeled shoes and costume jewelry galore! I really don't understand dress up on a table either. I did it the old fashioned way.
 
Tak said:
My grandmother gave me a big box of old silky lacy nightgowns, high heeled shoes and costume jewelry galore! I really don't understand dress up on a table either. I did it the old fashioned way.
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My Nanny let me use her really old heavy rocking chair that had a large arms with padding. I turn that into rocking horse it was grand.
 
My grandfather actually made us a rocking horse when my sister was 5, just after i was born. I loved that thing SO much. We were always riding off to meet dragons.
 
All of my dress up clothes were made by my grandmother. She made me capes, long skirts, dresses and fancy stuff. I also had all of my mother's old formals from her school days. Then there were the Halloween costumes mom got me each year that we saved. I wish my mother had saved my dress up outfits. I have no idea what happened to them, but my grandmother made similar things for my dolls and I have those. I had the best grandmother in the whole world. To me anyway lol. Oh and I remember playing with one of my mother's nightgowns too. I use to put it on my head and pretend I had really long hair. ROFLOL


Tak said:
My grandmother gave me a big box of old silky lacy nightgowns, high heeled shoes and costume jewelry galore! I really don't understand dress up on a table either. I did it the old fashioned way.
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What does dress up on a table mean? I have never heard of this.
 
My dad and uncle put a rope swing in our side yard and to saw horses I could swing to each. So my nanny felt I need a propper out fit.

Enters Ology queen of the jungle. Bare foot with a lepored pattern pair of pants and a shirt. I used to swing on that thing making Tarzan calls for hours.

I was and still am a huge black and white movie fan of which I looooove Tarzan.
 
Tak said:
I go through what i get carefully. If we ever end up with more it's usually a manic incident. They're under control now. I just need to keep it that way. ;)
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tulagirl said:
I am not sure how my mother did it. She raised me alone for several years before getting remarried. I always had what I thought was a lot. I never felt poor, but mother says to this day she wasn't sure where the money for groceries was going to come from some months. She kept the financial burdens of life away from me. I had a lot on my plate to deal with. It was hard enough without her putting those responsibilities on me at such a young age. So, if she had problems I only remember one incident and for the most part she worked three jobs and somehow managed. My grandmother must have helped with the toys, dolls and stuff. My favorite thing to do was play outside and make forts with plain wood pieces my dad cut up for me before the divorce. If I had a pile of wood, some sheets and a blanket I was super happy in that yard for hours on end. I kept myself busy on the farm by just fishing all day. There were a lot of good things and I am glad I have those to hang on to now that things are getting harder and harder with everyone getting cancer and dementia.
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Our parents really did some incredible things raising us. My father worked like a dog, but his business began to fail. He worked ceaselessly to keep us afloat. My mother became a whiz at shopping and coupons, making meals from whatever she could afford. She kept a garden to supplement our pantry. Then her health went from eh to horrific. I became my siblings' parent in a way. We never saw dad because of his job, and my mom just sort of faded away into her bedroom. Looking back it was probably depression as much as it was her physical state. But she did as well as she could and though we may not have had a lot, we were very happy and really oblivious to the fact we had become 'poor'. We made our fun through our imaginations, and enjoyed being outside and just running around, pretending to be pirates, cowboys, Star Trek crew members, whatever. It's sort of sad now seeing kids with their faces plastered to their phones, even little bitty children. They're missing out on so much.

I'm sorry your parents are having so many difficulties, tula. I watched my mom go terribly downhill that last decade and her passing still weighs heavily on me. Being a caretaker is very hard work, especially for someone with your health problems. I know that no matter how hard it is though, your parents will never forget, in this life or the next, how good you were to them. You are a wonderful daughter. They're lucky to have you.
 
evilbunnyfoofoo said:
Our parents really did some incredible things raising us. My father worked like a dog, but his business began to fail. He worked ceaselessly to keep us afloat. My mother became a whiz at shopping and coupons, making meals from whatever she could afford. She kept a garden to supplement our pantry. Then her health went from eh to horrific. I became my siblings' parent in a way. We never saw dad because of his job, and my mom just sort of faded away into her bedroom. Looking back it was probably depression as much as it was her physical state. But she did as well as she could and though we may not have had a lot, we were very happy and really oblivious to the fact we had become 'poor'. We made our fun through our imaginations, and enjoyed being outside and just running around, pretending to be pirates, cowboys, Star Trek crew members, whatever. It's sort of sad now seeing kids with their faces plastered to their phones, even little bitty children. They're missing out on so much.

I'm sorry your parents are having so many difficulties, tula. I watched my mom go terribly downhill that last decade and her passing still weighs heavily on me. Being a caretaker is very hard work, especially for someone with your health problems. I know that no matter how hard it is though, your parents will never forget, in this life or the next, how good you were to them. You are a wonderful daughter. They're lucky to have you.
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:( I can't dislike a post, but I can't like the sadness.

My mother was the second of nine children in a dirt poor Catholic family. My grandfather (a mechanic) even put nine seatbelts in the back of their travel all. My grandmother was generally pregnant, sick, or just plain worn out and my eldest aunt isn't domestic. My mother ended up tending a garden, cooking, working any odd jobs she could, raising chickens and horses, and taking care of her siblings all the time. Five girls in one bed, one bedroom, four boys in one bed, one other bedroom, and one bathroom without a lock. One youngest brother deaf, so knocking served no purpose. I think she worked so hard for us, and still does, because she never really got to be a kid. I never knew we were poor until, the, umm... we'll just say bad years. My dad was always at work and tired, but he always made time for us.
 
Tak said:
I really don't understand dress up on a table either.
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What do you mean by dress up on a table?

I don't get people these days that can't go anywhere with out a cellphone, when I was a kid I had lots of toys but I had more fun playing with bricks, smacking an old tire with a stick, and digging holes in the front yard.
 
Lol. Auto correct. I meant tablet.
 
Auto correct does some weird stuff on my computer, I don't know about y'all.... lol
 
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