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Do you think anyone has the right to tell a person they have greived enough for a animal when the person does not fell like they have?
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Do you think anyone has the right to tell a person they have greived enough for a animal when the person does not fell like they have?
Warning, I wrote a book and it's rather explicit although still rated pg.
Nobody and no one has a right to tell you arbitrarily to "get over it" or be done grieving. We all move forward at our own paces and some losses are harder to bear. Each situation unique. If you feel that you should be moving forward and aren't then I'd suggest grief counseling, or even just finding someone who you can talk to about all that you feel and why.
My grandmother passed away when I was 11. She wanted her memorial to be a celebration of her life since doctor's had told her she wouldn't live past 16 and she made it to 72. She lived every day so full of optimism and life and she had more meds, diet restrictions, allergies, and other conditions than anyone else I've ever even heard of. They played "Amazing Grace" as the last song and, though at times I feel she's watching over me from a much happier and relaxed place, I still can't hear or even think that song without crying. They're rolling down my face right now.
I have many different losses and each has effected me in a different way. I'll only give one more example. I was 20 when they finally found my first bladder cancer tumor. It was the size of a golf ball. "Only men over 55 get these" After they looked at it and said we'd remove it they were explaining the chances of it being cancerous and of it having spread to the bladder wall. The doctor explained what would happen in each instance and let me know that life expectancy once the cancer has gotten into the bladder wall or kidneys is usually 6 months at most. I didn't cry or get upset. If it's my time, then I'll go. The doctor and nurses were so consternated. They thought I was going into shock. They all had such a hard time believing that I could just accept the knowledge and move on. It was rather comical. I was alone, of course, living alone, too. I'm still unbothered by the fact that I could get this diagnosis at any time. The only thing that has changed, is that I promised my daughter I'd do everything in my power to live as long as possible for her. If I listen to the voices in my head. I'll live to be 63. They've yet to be wrong, so, while I worry some, it's mostly in regards to how I will care for her if I, say, have a thyroidectomy. How will I get her meals, laundry, cleaning, quality time, and all the other little things that a parent does. I grieve not for myself, but for those I love.
Do you think anyone has the right to tell a person they have greived enough for a animal when the person does not fell like they have?
No, but I believe in the right to smack such a rude person and tell them to learn to be more sensitive or keep their yaps shut. They'll get over being smacked right?
I can sort kinda can do a turkey call and bring turkeys come out of the woods.I hate to admit it because chickens are awesome, but I'm so not a bird person. Cleaning cages at petco when I worked there always made me sick. Even though the birds were friendly and would just chill on your shoulder. I also got attacked by a turkey when I was 5? I'm not positive on age, but that bird was as big as me!
Have you ever had to trim a rooster's spurs @tulagirl ? I got gouged once. Those boys can be lethal left to grow.
You have such a wide range of information stored in your head @tulagirl you always make me smile.
@Tak I love chickens now, but when I was a kid I was scared of them because, they would chase us around the property my grandmother owned. I just eventually felt I was bigger than the chicken lol. Birds can harm you for sure. Once a Great Horned owl of massive size flew so close to my head I could feel the wind from its flight. I was out there looking for owls, but people who have gone out looking at owls have been horribly attacked by them. Never underestimate a bird's ability to defend itself. Even those mockingbirds are fearless. They attack the hawks and I have watched them attack cats too. LOL They even attacked my MIL so badly she had blood all over head. In her case I can totally understand the position of the bird. So, I have no doubt turkeys hold a grudge. I mean we eat them every year. They are sick of it. So, if they can fight back they will. If I was a turkey I would do the same. It's turkeys against the world. They are tired of being the main dish. Tee hee Oh and there is nothing worse than the smell of bird pooh. Especially when it has just rained. Its enough to make me nauseous.