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So something has been bugging me... and it usually stems back to one person. The ex- wife.
After 2 months on layaway my boyfriend got his new PS3, because his old one hates to attempt to play his games like Skyrim, Mass Effect & it would refuse to play Fall Out 3. He didnt want to invest in a PS4 just yet, but we will be in the future.
So he gave me his old PS3 because I play like 1 game and the system still likes it Kingdom Hearts and when the boys are behaving play Skylanders on it too. Or if we have a visiting friend/gamer who bring their own copy. The system is roughly 3 years old. Has crashed twice since we've started dating almost a year ago (Dec 24th)
So last night we were going to my dad's to show him some bumper damage (hit a dead deer in the road, didnt have time to swerve so over the deer we went eww >_<) and to take some Banana Bread to him since he wasnt feeling well. We visited my boyfriend's old work place which was a gas station, so he was telling his friend/ex-coworker about it and all the different things thats on the new system and how we currently have a dead computer but have plans on fixing it.. etc. Gamer/Computer talk that I ignored. Well we forgot that the ex was working at the station instead of her normal store which is near our house.
The ex instead of minding her own business goes well why dont you send the old one to my house for the boys? She has no ps3 games whatsoever so she would probably want us to send their games that we've paid for to go over there. We have paid a lot of money for the Skylanders figures, which we both know if they went to her house they would be given away/thrown away within weeks.
When he said no, that he had given it to me and that I use it, she got extremely mad at him.
I dont know if its some wanna be power control thing or what with the ex... It doesnt work on him anymore. I see who she really is and I dont let Skip fall for her tricks anymore. Shes the ex for a reason she left him high and dry, and now that his life going better than hers she tries to create drama.
So as we were checking out she spouts off saying shes taking the boys for Thanksgiving to go see her family. And that we needed to have them ready and dressed in their nice clothes. When we said that theyve outgrown their nice clothes and if theres an outfit she wants them to wear she has to provide them. She gave us a look of disgust and made an annoyed noise.
The boys have gone through a growth spurt and gone from 4/5 to 6/7 borderline 8s on some clothes. Theyve outgrown ALL of their nice/church clothes. I've been telling them that things dont fit or its time to buy new clothes. So its not much of a surprise when the boyfriend goes oh snap they dont fit that anymore... That was a headdesk moment. So thats when I start the $200+ new clothes for the boys. She doesnt want to spend a dime on buying clothes for the boys and wants us to pay for everything.
I just spent $200 just on shirts/shorts/pjs etc for the boys and I've not even touched jeans. That is another $100 for about 9 pairs. The 2 new pairs we did buy she had just happened to call and then goes oh are those for my house? When my boyfriend was O_O no theyre for mine since the boys have outgrown everything. She goes well I dont have the money for clothes for them. So you guys should help out more and give me clothes for the boys for winter. Skip went Thats what CHILD SUPPORT is for! Then hung up on her. We're having to be the responsible adults and sad thing is in our county sides with the mother when it comes to custody cases.
-------------------------------------------------------- Shes At It Pt. 2 -----------------------------------------
Last week we had to send the boys home early. The oldest have been sick for a month but whenever hes acting better she thinks hes fine and never took him to a doctor. Well hes been running a fever all week. Shes made it clear she doesnt think I clean enough, that we have too much stuff (she hates knickknacks) Her house is next to bare, if you didnt know you wouldnt think children lived there. She goes through a bottle of bleach a week. We couldnt afford a vac until literally this past month, its been on layaway. Because the vac we want is an $145 vac. We literally got it the day after the kids got picked up. The same day my boyfriend got his PS3.
We didnt want a vac that will literally break in a few months like the cheaper ones. So we've been borrowing hers every few weeks. We know she bad mouths us to the boys because theyve told me things. So my boyfriend goes to check on the kids because she was trying to send the oldest to school with a fever. Then the oldest goes... I'm still sick because your house is dirty, its not clean like mommies is. Yes, we do have clutter. Yes, the floor probably hadnt been vacuumed in a week. The areas the boys are in are clean, I make sure theyre taken care of and are safe. My house is not dirty, like shes trying to make it sound. I come from a hoarder home. I know what dirty is, I was the one struggling to keep it clean. I have a feeling that the people who came to pick up the kids who are buddy buddy with the ex, probably told her that our house was a mess. I was in the process of rearranging our dinning room and parts of our room so it was all in the living room. And I hadnt gotten the rabbit cage cleaned yet that day.
The boys are constantly butting into adult conversations because thats what their mother does and thats probably what happened, he over heard the ex and the friend talking. Because this hasnt been the first time.
So she told my boyfriend we had to clean up the house, and denied us visitation until today. That she'll be dropping the kids off today, so she can see our house. Honestly I dont want her or any of her friends in my house. But I also dont have anything to hide. We were supposed to have the boys all week. Its now sounding like its today till weds then after that who knows. All I know she needs to make up her mind instead of telling us last minute.
I know I come off bitter and angry, but you know what I am. I've tried giving her an ounce of compassion and I've tried to help her out especially over the summer when all of her issues began. AND every single time I've had it thrown back in my face because it wasnt good enough or shes used it against us. She originally wanted all of us to be "friends" but I was raised your not friends with the ex. Because they're the ex for a reason. Especially one thats a liar and a cheater. I give my boyfriend kudos for being civil with her and not bad mouthing her in front of the kids. All I know is I love and adore my boyfriend and those two little boys so I have to deal with having her in our lives.
After 2 months on layaway my boyfriend got his new PS3, because his old one hates to attempt to play his games like Skyrim, Mass Effect & it would refuse to play Fall Out 3. He didnt want to invest in a PS4 just yet, but we will be in the future.
So he gave me his old PS3 because I play like 1 game and the system still likes it Kingdom Hearts and when the boys are behaving play Skylanders on it too. Or if we have a visiting friend/gamer who bring their own copy. The system is roughly 3 years old. Has crashed twice since we've started dating almost a year ago (Dec 24th)
So last night we were going to my dad's to show him some bumper damage (hit a dead deer in the road, didnt have time to swerve so over the deer we went eww >_<) and to take some Banana Bread to him since he wasnt feeling well. We visited my boyfriend's old work place which was a gas station, so he was telling his friend/ex-coworker about it and all the different things thats on the new system and how we currently have a dead computer but have plans on fixing it.. etc. Gamer/Computer talk that I ignored. Well we forgot that the ex was working at the station instead of her normal store which is near our house.
The ex instead of minding her own business goes well why dont you send the old one to my house for the boys? She has no ps3 games whatsoever so she would probably want us to send their games that we've paid for to go over there. We have paid a lot of money for the Skylanders figures, which we both know if they went to her house they would be given away/thrown away within weeks.
When he said no, that he had given it to me and that I use it, she got extremely mad at him.
I dont know if its some wanna be power control thing or what with the ex... It doesnt work on him anymore. I see who she really is and I dont let Skip fall for her tricks anymore. Shes the ex for a reason she left him high and dry, and now that his life going better than hers she tries to create drama.
So as we were checking out she spouts off saying shes taking the boys for Thanksgiving to go see her family. And that we needed to have them ready and dressed in their nice clothes. When we said that theyve outgrown their nice clothes and if theres an outfit she wants them to wear she has to provide them. She gave us a look of disgust and made an annoyed noise.
The boys have gone through a growth spurt and gone from 4/5 to 6/7 borderline 8s on some clothes. Theyve outgrown ALL of their nice/church clothes. I've been telling them that things dont fit or its time to buy new clothes. So its not much of a surprise when the boyfriend goes oh snap they dont fit that anymore... That was a headdesk moment. So thats when I start the $200+ new clothes for the boys. She doesnt want to spend a dime on buying clothes for the boys and wants us to pay for everything.
I just spent $200 just on shirts/shorts/pjs etc for the boys and I've not even touched jeans. That is another $100 for about 9 pairs. The 2 new pairs we did buy she had just happened to call and then goes oh are those for my house? When my boyfriend was O_O no theyre for mine since the boys have outgrown everything. She goes well I dont have the money for clothes for them. So you guys should help out more and give me clothes for the boys for winter. Skip went Thats what CHILD SUPPORT is for! Then hung up on her. We're having to be the responsible adults and sad thing is in our county sides with the mother when it comes to custody cases.
-------------------------------------------------------- Shes At It Pt. 2 -----------------------------------------
Last week we had to send the boys home early. The oldest have been sick for a month but whenever hes acting better she thinks hes fine and never took him to a doctor. Well hes been running a fever all week. Shes made it clear she doesnt think I clean enough, that we have too much stuff (she hates knickknacks) Her house is next to bare, if you didnt know you wouldnt think children lived there. She goes through a bottle of bleach a week. We couldnt afford a vac until literally this past month, its been on layaway. Because the vac we want is an $145 vac. We literally got it the day after the kids got picked up. The same day my boyfriend got his PS3.
We didnt want a vac that will literally break in a few months like the cheaper ones. So we've been borrowing hers every few weeks. We know she bad mouths us to the boys because theyve told me things. So my boyfriend goes to check on the kids because she was trying to send the oldest to school with a fever. Then the oldest goes... I'm still sick because your house is dirty, its not clean like mommies is. Yes, we do have clutter. Yes, the floor probably hadnt been vacuumed in a week. The areas the boys are in are clean, I make sure theyre taken care of and are safe. My house is not dirty, like shes trying to make it sound. I come from a hoarder home. I know what dirty is, I was the one struggling to keep it clean. I have a feeling that the people who came to pick up the kids who are buddy buddy with the ex, probably told her that our house was a mess. I was in the process of rearranging our dinning room and parts of our room so it was all in the living room. And I hadnt gotten the rabbit cage cleaned yet that day.
The boys are constantly butting into adult conversations because thats what their mother does and thats probably what happened, he over heard the ex and the friend talking. Because this hasnt been the first time.
So she told my boyfriend we had to clean up the house, and denied us visitation until today. That she'll be dropping the kids off today, so she can see our house. Honestly I dont want her or any of her friends in my house. But I also dont have anything to hide. We were supposed to have the boys all week. Its now sounding like its today till weds then after that who knows. All I know she needs to make up her mind instead of telling us last minute.
I know I come off bitter and angry, but you know what I am. I've tried giving her an ounce of compassion and I've tried to help her out especially over the summer when all of her issues began. AND every single time I've had it thrown back in my face because it wasnt good enough or shes used it against us. She originally wanted all of us to be "friends" but I was raised your not friends with the ex. Because they're the ex for a reason. Especially one thats a liar and a cheater. I give my boyfriend kudos for being civil with her and not bad mouthing her in front of the kids. All I know is I love and adore my boyfriend and those two little boys so I have to deal with having her in our lives.
