My grandma

Tak

Tak

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My grandma is 82. Not so old for having grandkids over forty and an 8 year old great grandchild. She survived having half of a lung removed due to cancer about 1 and 1/2 years ago. Now she's not likely to make it much longer. I'll probably never get to see her again. We'll know more for sure tomorrow. Due to rifts between my mother and pretty much everyone who is part of her family (except my perfect brother, perfect sister, and perfect nephew), I won't have any chance of making it to her wake. I'm sad. Sad for my mom who deep down really loves her mother, sad for my daughter never really knowing her great-grandmother, sad for my large extended family who have already seen so much death and disease this year, and sad because my grandma is special to me. How many grandmothers pass stinky gas, then laugh and joke about it? She can't cook well, but her hugs were like a bear. She's a little bright ray of light in such a dark terrifying world. I'm not ready for her to go yet.
 
Tak said:
My grandma is 82. Not so old for having grandkids over forty and an 8 year old great grandchild. She survived having half of a lung removed due to cancer about 1 and 1/2 years ago. Now she's not likely to make it much longer. I'll probably never get to see her again. We'll know more for sure tomorrow. Due to rifts between my mother and pretty much everyone who is part of her family (except my perfect brother, perfect sister, and perfect nephew), I won't have any chance of making it to her wake. I'm sad. Sad for my mom who deep down really loves her mother, sad for my daughter never really knowing her great-grandmother, sad for my large extended family who have already seen so much death and disease this year, and sad because my grandma is special to me. How many grandmothers pass stinky gas, then laugh and joke about it? She can't cook well, but her hugs were like a bear. She's a little bright ray of light in such a dark terrifying world. I'm not ready for her to go yet.
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Hugs
No one is ready to let anyone go big hugs to you and your girl.
 
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:xmashug:poor Tak. :(
 
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Thank you friends.
She made it through all four surgeries and has a synthetic drainage tube now. Still waiting for biopsy results. At least she's not in so much pain and discomfort anymore. Pain meds and the ability to drink water go a long way with lifting your spirits.
 
She's got abdominal cancer and estimated between a week and two months before she's gone. Going home on hospice and will be kept out of pain.
 
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She's got abdominal cancer and estimated between a week and two months before she's gone. Going home on hospice and will be kept out of pain.
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Oh Tak I am so sorry my grandmother was like that I lost her to lung cancer. I am so so sorry. Hugs your way. My though are with your family.
 
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Thanks @Ology there's too much background to explain, but my mother and siblings aren't going to try to go see her or even go to the funeral. She blamed me for the rift between her and her immediate family even though it started long before I was born. My daughter is taking care of me until I can dig out of the despair and process again. :cry:
 
:( :xmashug: Oh no Tak! I'm so sorry hun.
 
My cousin is coming Friday to take my daughter and I to see grandma. I told my mom and I'm trying to convince her to go, but not too hopeful. If she gets mad at me, so be it.

I also decided to commission a pony dedicated to my grandmother. By soulcookies.
 
I know how special Grandmas and Greatgrandmas can be. I am 34 and up until this year I still had great grandmothers, they were amazing women and I miss them dearly. I try to remind myself I was lucky to have had them in my life for so long. I have one grandmother left now and 2 grandpas. They are all wonderful but my great grandmothers will always have a special place in my heart. I'm sending hugs your way and advice that no matter what the family drama may be, in the end you only have to be at peace with yourself and your own choices and that's all that matters. You do what you feel is right for you because when the time comes that she is gone you don't want any regrets.
 
Gingerbread said:
I know how special Grandmas and Greatgrandmas can be. I am 34 and up until this year I still had great grandmothers, they were amazing women and I miss them dearly. I try to remind myself I was lucky to have had them in my life for so long. I have one grandmother left now and 2 grandpas. They are all wonderful but my great grandmothers will always have a special place in my heart. I'm sending hugs your way and advice that no matter what the family drama may be, in the end you only have to be at peace with yourself and your own choices and that's all that matters. You do what you feel is right for you because when the time comes that she is gone you don't want any regrets.
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Thank you.
 
I hope you have a good visit, and hope your mom chooses to go as well. It would be healing I think for all family members to be able to just say their peace, as kindly as possible. I'm sorry you have to go through this.
 
Hope your time with your grandmother is good. Cherish them as long as you can.
 
I'm pretty nervous about the visit. So thankful that I get to have this chance to see her. My daughter, too. She's not just the first great grandchild, but she's also the only girl. I never got to meet any of my great grandparents. My last great grandfather passed when I was 8. We're leaving halfway through the school day on Friday. Luckily my daughter's teacher said that there was no problem with missing a little this early in the school year.
 
R.I.P. grandma Teresa 5/1/35-8/30/17
 
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R.I.P. grandma Teresa 5/1/35-8/30/17
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I am so sorry Tak Its not easy but we're all here for you in this sad time.
 
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