Coping skills taking a vacation day.

No the cake is a Lie!
 
Tak said:
Well put @evilbunnyfoofoo. I had to tell my daughter that I could be sad and functional, or manic and spend too much. :(
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Man this is me to a T. Although I am not sure I am all that functional sad. In fact I am not really sure I am all that functional at all. Oh and the running from the doctors, I make a regular habit of that. There are some things I am just not able to deal with. I really try though. Sniff I have a terrible habit of dealing with impulsive collecting, shopping and doing whatever. Shakes head and runs off. Booooo I feel like a totally different person from your regular person. I am quite at home in a store that sells nothing but jars of junk. I am just really weird, but R2 says I am super funny and a lot of fun and he wouldn't trade me even for all the chemical imbalances I seem to deal with. Pick a day, pick a symptom...do I or don't I leave the couch? That is the question. Tee hee I have an artistic mind that is my excuse. My brain is on overdrive as it sees everything differently. So...I am the strange person living at the top of the mountain in a triangular house full of oddities. Classical music on Mondays, Led Zepp on Tuesdays.
 
tulagirl said:
Man this is me to a T. Although I am not sure I am all that functional sad. In fact I am not really sure I am all that functional at all. Oh and the running from the doctors, I make a regular habit of that. There are some things I am just not able to deal with. I really try though. Sniff I have a terrible habit of dealing with impulsive collecting, shopping and doing whatever. Shakes head and runs off. Booooo I feel like a totally different person from your regular person. I am quite at home in a store that sells nothing but jars of junk. I am just really weird, but R2 says I am super funny and a lot of fun and he wouldn't trade me even for all the chemical imbalances I seem to deal with. Pick a day, pick a symptom...do I or don't I leave the couch? That is the question. Tee hee I have an artistic mind that is my excuse. My brain is on overdrive as it sees everything differently. So...I am the strange person living at the top of the mountain in a triangular house full of oddities. Classical music on Mondays, Led Zepp on Tuesdays.
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That's why you're awesome @tulagirl !

Here's a for instance for me. It is absolutely gorgeous outside sunny high fifties no wind.... I've spent all day in bed giving in to my pain and sadness. Oh, and still trying not to spend anything. Online. Hopefully when my daughter gets home I can drag myself out to plant the cute little dwarf rhododendron that is waiting. It's blooms will be dark purple!
 
I lay here in my bed and think of how useless I am a lot. I have been call a lazy good for nothing and your just someone I would not like if I was not related to you. Also I have been call a very selfish prson who does not care about anyone beyond myself. This has gone on for year. Some days I ask myself is it worth it to get up. Most days its no but you have to the last three have been No thanks I just stay here.
 
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I lay here in my bed and think of how useless I am a lot. I have been call a lazy good for nothing and your just someone I would not like if I was not related to you. Also I have been call a very selfish prson who does not care about anyone beyond myself. This has gone on for year. Some days I ask myself is it worth it to get up. Most days its no but you have to the last three have been No thanks I just stay here.
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I can't like that you're sad, but I can relate. I'm selfish and a terrible mother, or I'm lazy and useless, but, although I spend so much time lost inside my books and dreams, I still manage to clean every nook, corner, and crevice in my home, wash, dry, and fold 2-3 loads of laundry per week, a load of dishes every day or two, get up early make breakfast and lunch for my daughter, walk her to the bus, take the dog out, water and feed the dog, make a healthy snack and dinner for my daughter, plus monthly bills, make appointments, etc, and so forth. I refer to life as a hamster wheel that I'll never be able to get off of. At least listing how much I've done proves that I'm not lazy like they say. I didn't list all the outdoor, and more occasional cleaning. Also, considering that I wake up for my daughter and go out of my way to clean for them, I'm not going to believe I'm selfish either.

The point. I know how much time and care you put into your cuddle ponies. Those aren't the actions of a selfish or lazy person.
 
You know I really do think that a lot of us that have various diagnosed conditions or issues or whatever fancy talents you want to call them. LOL We have had a lot of emotionally abusive people in our lives haven't we? I got told I was worthless. In fact when I was growing up my mother threatened me on several occasions that she would have men in white coats come and take me away, or send me to boarding school. I refuse to abuse myself and say those things to myself. I have enough issues without listening to me tear myself apart for what I can't do and be in this world. I am who I am and there must be a reason for that. People can think and say what they want but it doesn't make it true. Sure I get frustrated with the loss of my life due to pain and stuff. No one said life would be easy I guess. So, thank goodness I have my eyes to see and my ears to hear and a few nice things happen and some fun friends here and there to keep my floatie up on top of the water rather than under the rapids where it likes to be often. ROFLOL And then there is the wonderful Yuki that makes my world a better place. I am super excited about my handicap tag too. Yea finally the doctors were able to get me one and what a difference it has already made.
 
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You know I really do think that a lot of us that have various diagnosed conditions or issues or whatever fancy talents you want to call them. LOL We have had a lot of emotionally abusive people in our lives haven't we? I got told I was worthless. In fact when I was growing up my mother threatened me on several occasions that she would have men in white coats come and take me away, or send me to boarding school. I refuse to abuse myself and say those things to myself. I have enough issues without listening to me tear myself apart for what I can't do and be in this world. I am who I am and there must be a reason for that. People can think and say what they want but it doesn't make it true. Sure I get frustrated with the loss of my life due to pain and stuff. No one said life would be easy I guess. So, thank goodness I have my eyes to see and my ears to hear and a few nice things happen and some fun friends here and there to keep my floatie up on top of the water rather than under the rapids where it likes to be often. ROFLOL And then there is the wonderful Yuki that makes my world a better place. I am super excited about my handicap tag too. Yea finally the doctors were able to get me one and what a difference it has already made.
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That's why you're awesome @tulagirl
You have such great inner strength. I just have to keep reminding myself of the good things. My Wesley had his stitches taken out today. Evelyn's friend is coming over to play tomorrow. Next week is spring break and I cancelled all appointments so that we can spend some fun time together. She's only really got to get through 5 more weeks of school and then she'll get a new teacher.
 
Its so nice she is having a friend over. She will have so much fun. There is nothing like the giggles from little girls happy and playing. Boy Spring break is late for you guys. Ours was like two weeks ago. I can remember having teachers that I was glad I would never see again lol. Five weeks isn't much. What do you guys do to keep busy in the summer?
 
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Its so nice she is having a friend over. She will have so much fun. There is nothing like the giggles from little girls happy and playing. Boy Spring break is late for you guys. Ours was like two weeks ago. I can remember having teachers that I was glad I would never see again lol. Five weeks isn't much. What do you guys do to keep busy in the summer?
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Evelyn usually goes to a week or two of summer day camps. Nature nuts is her favorite. Earth science. We try to get to the beach at least once. Otherwise, she loves being able to sleep in. We're hoping to someday be able to afford a trip to the la Brea tar pits and I have a brick with my name on it at the L.A. zoo that she really wants to see. There's also my cousin in Vegas.


Now for the not coping. What do I do when the principal and teacher are discriminating against my child, lying to my face, and falsifying records. I honestly believe that they hate me so much for being involved, that they are taking it out on her. This is all besides the fact that the teacher is quite literally insane.
 
Oh, and yeah! I might have glaucoma! o_O Aren't I a little young for that?
 
Tak said:
Oh, and yeah! I might have glaucoma! o_O Aren't I a little young for that?
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If you have documentation of your concerns over the principle and teacher's leadership and fair treatment of your child you would then make an appointment to discuss it with the Superintendent. What works best with the Superintendent is more than one parent with the same complaint going in as a group to discuss a particular principle and teacher. Just make sure that you have a running record of every incident, details about it and documentation-along with this how this is affecting your child and her education as well as, any other problem she is having as a result.

R2 has been a glaucoma suspect since his teens. Glaucoma occurs in children. It is called Juvenile Glaucoma, Infantile Glaucoma and Pediatric Glaucoma. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people come up to me and say, "you are too young to be this sick." I look at them and say, "Can you please explain to me the sheer number of children at St. Jude then? ROFLOL Seriously tee hee....another Tulagirl Soapbox Moment brought to you by, "the makers of...." and "the institution for.....":p Stay tuned for there most certainly will be another episode.

So far R2 being a suspect, he has not come down with the disease.;)
 
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I'm doing everything possible for the school situation. I'm going to trying to keep from actively thinking about it, so Evelyn can have a fun spring break. She's got make up work from her two weeks of nasty cold and ear infection. It's bad enough she has to do that. I wish I could afford private school. We have a good one, but they're very religious.
 
Yes do take a break and have some fun. I was in private school as a child from preK all the way through 8th grade. I really have the fondest memories of my Lutheran MS school. It is where I met my best friends. I still look back at it fondly as it gave me a much better environment for my unique issues. I can't say there were not issues though. My mother took heat for being a divorced, single mom. This caused me a bit of a problem keeping one friend I loved dearly. Some parents were okay, but the die hard unforgiving ones were terrible. I like to say that is ignorance on the part of people not the church. They didn't know dad left us. Nor did anyone ask. The kids in my classes were wonderful for the most part. We didn't have a lot of bully issues either as it wasn't allowed. This was a long time ago though and kids face things I never faced in school. They were still spanking kids when I started school. I know I am ancient baaaa haaaaaa. My classes were smaller so the teacher could focus on all of us easier. I have no idea what private school is like now. I think mom had a partial scholarship for my tuition either that or grandmother paid for it. Most private schools do have programs for people with children who need the school but can't come up with all the tuition.
 
@tulagirl my dad has a horror story from grade school. He was seated at the back of the class and couldn't answer when called on so they shut him in a closet alone for six hours! I'm surprised he's not scarred. Btw, he couldn't answer because he couldn't read the chalkboard. He needed glasses. My uncle on the other side had a terrible time, too. He was born deaf. He was still an incredibly intelligent person. They told him that he was stupid and kept him in remedial courses until he got fed up and dropped out after 8th grade. It haunted him all his life. There was no asl back then. He was the youngest of nine kids. I remember him fondly, though he held a lot of anger his whole life. :cry:
 
I had to go to a Christian school for two years. I was bullied in public school so bad I never wanted to go but I loved to learn just not the people.

The school I was forced to go to made you wear dresses and would puninish you if your dress or skirt was not "up to" there code.
Boys got away with everything even when I go beat up and almost broke my arm. I was wrong be cause I jade to hit him to get him off me. Yeah the girl with a painful arm and bleeding from the top of here head was at fault for hitting a boy.

Bullying was 10 times worse. I call this time the two years of heck. I hated that place. Most teacher as well except coach who taught history and one sub.
I had no friends and could tell more horror stories about girls I though we're friend were not.

Public high school I went back too was still heck but I learn not to just sit and let myself be beat up.
 
Tak said:
@tulagirl my dad has a horror story from grade school. He was seated at the back of the class and couldn't answer when called on so they shut him in a closet alone for six hours! I'm surprised he's not scarred. Btw, he couldn't answer because he couldn't read the chalkboard. He needed glasses. My uncle on the other side had a terrible time, too. He was born deaf. He was still an incredibly intelligent person. They told him that he was stupid and kept him in remedial courses until he got fed up and dropped out after 8th grade. It haunted him all his life. There was no asl back then. He was the youngest of nine kids. I remember him fondly, though he held a lot of anger his whole life. :cry:
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My mother was beaten in front of her entire class with her dress up over her head by a nun. It still upsets her to talk about it. All of this because, she couldn't solve a second grade math problem.

When my back was broken on the playground, my third grade teacher told me I was trying to get attention and didn't call my parents. The doctor later said I could have been paralyzed by the fact I got no care for over 24 hours. I was due to spend the night with a friend and apparently I cried the entire time and told her my back hurt. That night she called me mom worried. Mom took me to the doctor the next day. My grandmother threatened to sue the school and the teacher quit never to return. My mother told her to her face she had no business being a teacher and to find another job where she was not harmful to children. I have complete memory loss of the incident after it happened up to the point where I got my xray.


The thing is bad things happen in every school, so I urge parents to be actively involved in your child's education at every age. Volunteer to help out so you can be on school grounds. Pay attention to what is going on, show up and talk to people. You are your child's best advocate.
 
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I try @tulagirl , I do. I will unleash a whole lot of crazy on these people if they don't do better for my girl. I'm feeling like a mama tiger backed into a corner and that is not a good scenario for them. I'm not a violent person, but nobody messes with my Evelyn. Wesley and I are in accord on this. I'm rallying other parents to the cause of removing the teacher and corroborating Evelyn's side of every situation. I've got some legal help on standby and access to a lawyer if necessary. My dad is a big dude and if they threaten his only granddaughter he'll put in an appearance. I'll even bring in the ADA anti discrimination laws. They went and messed with the wrong mother. If I learned one thing well from my own mother, it's how to stand up for those who can't stand up for themselves.
 
It always infuriates me to hear of children being treated poorly at school or anywhere. They're our most precious resource, but as a society we seem to have lost track of that. I applaud any parent who will stand up for their child (and others), it's the only way to keep them safe. We have to be diligent.
 
I don't have many people in my rl @evilbunnyfoofoo and I'm fiercely loyal to those who are true to me, so nobody is allowed to mess with my people. Some attribute it to my being a chinese zodiac water dog on the mountain. I think it's just that I have so few that I can allow myself to open to. Either way, I've got my people's backs and my daughter is a part of me, I'll never leave her back unguarded.

If that makes me crazy, so be it.
 
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